The Power of Observation

To be curious with an open mind is one of my favorite traits in a human. It is my opinion that this is the first step towards understanding our dogs. What are their motivations, likes, dislikes, preferences, and interests? What are they afraid of? What does their body language indicate? How influenced are they by the environment, humans, or other dogs? How do they play? Are they well received y fellow dogs? What situations create excitement/stimulation? Are they adaptable; quick to relax? What captures their attention?

To observe without over involvement and influence is its own love language. To ask "who are you?" without immediate judgement and preconceived notions is an absolute gift to our canine companions.

There are countless ways to observe a dog without the human influence of touch, voice etc. The most subtle movements tell a story if we pay close enough attention. How quickly do the eyes move, which way does the body turn, what pace is the breath, who do they follow, what sounds perk the ears? We ask so much of them, let us not forget that they are always communicating in their own beautiful (and often silent) ways.

Meditation has been one of the most impactful practices for me and my work with dogs over the years. When we meditate, we are training our attention and awareness. We move towards a mentally clear and emotionally calm, regulated state. We get curious about our internal  landscapes and those of other beings. We slow down, and we become more present and open to possibility. We are less likely to be reactive or jump to conclusions.

One of the biggest problems I see for clients is when they have formed a strong opinion about how their dog "should" behave without taking into full consideration who their dog is, how they experience the world and what they need in order to be fulfilled and balanced.

The way we start to answer these questions is first through curiosity. When we are able to become neutral observers, the foundations of our relationships gain strength, understanding, and compassion. We are more responsive, less reactive and our Human-Canine relationships take a leap towards harmony.